By Joe LaGuardia
In the last few decades, churches have been scrambling to attract young adults. Reaching this age group is a momentous task that requires changes in worship, leadership, preaching, and outreach.
Much of this change has been for the better — an ever fluid and reforming church is usually one with an eye towards the Holy Spirit.
Change comes with a cost, however–one that few pastors weigh.
In my own community, just east of Atlanta, I meet many young people who attend church on a regular basis. The church market is flooded with young adult-friendly options.
It is the over-60 crowd that worries me, and I am not the only one who is concerned.
It seems that whenever I meet people of older generations–Baby Boomers and the Greatest Generation, as they are called– I find out that they don’t go to church. Many claim that they no longer feel at home in places of worship once familiar.
When I dig deeper, themes emerge and people usually give me one of three reasons why they stopped going to church.
One reason is that churches have changed worship to the point that older generations now feel out of place and ill-prepared to keep up. Complaints focus on music and preaching.
Most of the large churches in my area have changed to contemporary worship. Although contemporary music is good, it tends to be too loud, according to many people I’ve polled.
And sermons are getting too long. Pastors, worried about the rise of biblical illiteracy in their congregations, have shifted from preaching sermons to teaching sermons. This has led to longer sermons of a particular style with which older folks fail to connect.
Keep in mind that very few people are offended or opposed to different styles of worship, but many do not appreciate what appears to be a growing disregard for choirs, tradition, and a fundamental honoring of the church hour (and, only one hour is needed!) as a sacred time with God.
Everyone wants a church filled with energetic, enthusiastic young people; but, they don’t want to attend a service that feels like a youth group for adults.
A second reason why the over-60 crowd is dropping out of church is because our culture has changed so rapidly, and churches are reactive rather than proactive in negotiating these changes.
Church, they argue, is supposed to be a safe place that helps families transition into a future-looking faith, but not force it.
The prevailing feeling is that an encroaching culture of change in the digital age has dumbed down faith. Add to that narrative the perception that preaching now focuses on self-help gimmickry rather than “Bible-based preaching” (not my words), then it seems the church has lost its way.
A third reason our seasoned saints no longer attend church is that they are busy like everyone else. This has to do with the changing landscape of family life and split families.
Whereas families used to live in the same neighborhoods and attend the same churches, many families are spread across the state or the nation.
Grandparents have to travel in order to visit adult children and grandchildren.
The effects of cultural shifts, anxious churches trying to attract younger churchgoers, and a transient family landscape has led to the decline of older generation attendance.
Frankly, we have not balanced the need to change with the honoring of traditions that have brought stability over the years. In reaching for one generation, we’ve left another behind by taking people for granted.
Perhaps it’s time for us to right the ship, take a hard look at the cost of change, and be the presence of Christ for every generation that values joining God at work in the world rather than simply meeting God within the walls of a church.
When it comes to worship and Christ’s mission, no one should be left behind.
2 thoughts on “3 Reasons people over 60 leave church”
We have the opposite problem, this region is particularly traditional so the churches are filled with the approaching and over sixty crowd, but there’s pretty much no youth. When they have the option about whether or not to come, most of them just don’t show up. The worship here is still singing hymns, which just don’t connect with the youth. The sermons here are the same old sermons that have been preached for years. Some churches don’t even bother to have a college age class or young adult class. The churches that tried to balance contemporary with traditional ended up in a tug-of-war where traditional won. I’m afraid that this is the future for any church who tries to swing back toward tradition.
Generally I agree with your comments, and you & I have discussed this… The average age in the US is 37. Churches seek an under 25 demographic. I have often asked, “What about the 75% of us who are over 25? Do you intend for them to go to hell?