By Joe LaGuardia
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Over the last week, I’ve been reading the “farewell remarks” from St. Paul’s epistles. Although he writes to a variety of communities, each remark sounds similar, such as the one penned in his second letter to the Corinthians:
“Finally, brothers and sisters, farewell. Put things in order, listen to my appeal, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you” (13:11).
In others, he includes a challenge for the saints to be an encouragement one to another, to speak with words of wisdom rather than malice, and greet each other with a holy kiss.
As I plan to depart from Conyers and move to Florida next week, I can’t help but keep Paul’s farewell words in mind. That doesn’t mean I consider myself to be like Paul–he’s a saint for a reason, you know–but I do think his concluding challenges are something to ponder.
For one, he encourages churches to live in peace. Too often, our communities are so fractured that people cease to speak to one another or get together. We forget that, like families, churchgoers fight every now and then, but are expected to reconcile.
Reconciliation is not the same as reprimanding. The world is good at reprimanding: our justice system and courts tell us what we’ve done wrong, and we are reprimanded as punishable by law.
Reconciliation provides the space for people to speak with each other, confront each other, and open a space for repentance. Without the opportunity to repent and apologize–to ask forgiveness–true reconciliation does not occur. Our peace may be a false one otherwise.
I learned this the hard way after my father’s death. The person who shot my father and two other people at a town hall meeting some three years ago was sentenced to three life sentences. The perpetrator will never get out on parole and he escaped the death penalty only because his state governor put a moratorium on capital punishment.
As I have worked through my grief, I have forgiven the man and moved on. But that is not reconciliation. Until he repents of his crime and apologizes (he gave a sort of apology when he was sentenced in court, but refused to take full responsibility for his crimes), he has robbed me (and himself) of reconciliation.
Being the church means being places of peace and peacemaking. We are to follow Jesus’ example by putting others before self, reaching out with unconditional love, and forgiving rather than retaliating against others.
A second challenge that Paul gives the church is to be people of encouragement. Christian encouragement does not originate from a “You’re okay, I’m okay” mentality.
Rather, encouragement originates from a deep-seated confidence and knowledge that we are blessed by God and are, in turn, called to bless–and be a blessing–to others.
Encouragement comes from the words we speak. We are to avoid chatter and gossip, and distance ourselves from those who do. God’s blessing–his love and peace–are to shape our words and actions towards others.
After all, as Christians, we’ve inherited God’s promise to Abraham so long ago, an inheritance to be a blessing to all the nations of the world (Genesis 22:18).
Last, Paul challenged the church to greet each other with a holy kiss.
I don’t recommend this action these days any more than I recommend living by all the 600 laws as outlined in the Old Testament book of Leviticus. Nevertheless, there is a truth behind this statement.
We are to make sure that our departure from one another–whether we part permanently or temporarily–is inspired by our willingness to embrace each other the next time we meet.
No matter how much Christians fight, disagree, celebrate, praise and pray, we are to look forward to that next meeting, in this world or the next.
A holy kiss is but a cultural gesture of that embodied peace, a sign that the community is under the lordship of Christ. It implies that we are family and suggests that we are not saying “Goodbye,” but “See you later.”
It is as the old hymn states, “God be with you ’till we meet again, by his counsels guide, uphold you.”